Should It Be A Crime If Transgender People Have Sex W/ Heterosexual People Without Disclosing Their Transgender Status?

​Heterosexual people do NOT have to have sex with anyone who was BORN of the same sex as them; if they don’t desire. Heterosexual people have a choice, and that choice should be protected like transgender people’s sexual preferences.

Transgender men can FEEL like a woman all day. Nobody is stopping you from FEELING like a woman….

But heterosexual men FEEL like they only want to have sex with natural born women, and that’s fine too. 

Stop trying to emotionally manipulate people into being involved in a lifestyle and community they don’t want to be associated with…. I swear some of y’all pro-trans people try to emotionally guilt trip others into being involved in what some heterosexuals might consider homosexuality. 

Transgender people’s feelings have no superiority over heterosexual people’s…. I should be able to select who I want to have sex with based on my OWN sexuality, not YOURS. Calling him FRAGILE or a PUNK (the same name calling and verbal abuse they used on homosexuals back in the day) does not take away any feelings of him being sexually violated. 

How I, a woman (or in this case a heterosexual man) feels about or during any sexual encounter is VALID…. Don’t try to fucking bully men into being okay with things that they’re not….

Y’all pro-trans muthafuckas remind of people who try to make virgins feel guilty for not wanting to have sex. Just because a virgin gets horny doesn’t mean they should be guilt trip’d into sucking dick; and neither should a HETEROsexual man. 

If you know heterosexual men don’t want to have sex with transgender people; you should tell men about your background to avoid violating his sexuality. 

I mean damn…. How hard is it to only have sex with people who want to have sex with you. Stop violating people’s sexuality. It’s not rocket science. There are plenty of men who (after you disclose your history) will still want to have sex with you. I personally wouldn’t want to have sex with anyone who I suspect would regret it afterwards.

That shit can result in lasting emotional trauma to a heterosexual man, and pro-trans people solution is “he better stop acting like a fucking punk and get over it”…. Anything that can drive a man to cry, murder, or suicide is not something that we should force him to just get over. Clearly it caused some psychological damage, and at that point he is considered a victim. Your sexuality is yours, but (from a physical stand point) it shouldn’t negatively impact other people’s mental or physical health and/or emotional stability.

If that person is just upset you’re transgender then you can definitely say “get over it”…. But if you knowingly have sex with him and he’s suffering from PTSD afterwards; that shit is not okay…. I don’t give a fuck what your sexuality is; NOBODY should FEEL ashamed of themselves after they’ve had sex with another person.

Like I said, if I feel like there’s any possibility that someone will feel ashamed of having sex with me (afterwards), I’m not fucking doing it.

And since when did the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy get reinstated. I thought we did away with that to ensure homosexual and transgender people could be open about their sexuality. Now all of a sudden we want to conveniently keep secrets again. You ask any doctor on this planet if you should ask your sexual partner about their history and they’ll tell you “YES!”…. As soon as you are willing to have sex with another person, they have a right to know, and your history becomes their fucking business. Regardless of your sexuality you should be having OPEN and HONEST conversations about any history pertaining to sex, gender, preference, etc. This is what makes you a mature adult. Transgender people are not fucking exempt.

If you’re proud of who you are and you made the decision to be transgender; what’s the problem with telling him? You’re trying to intentionally deceive him and knowingly violate his sexuality, therefore considering how the events occur your ass might belong in jail.

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​ATTRACTIVE MEN ARE FUCKING BORING!!!!! 

When I say attractive I’m referring to pretty much all good looking men and ugly men who have a considerable amount of women for whatever reason. I don’t mind starting a convo, BUT DAMN! They just expect to set back and be entertained by my keen wit thee entire fucking time…. 

ME: “Muthafucka you’re not going to return the favor?!?!” 

Then they’ll randomly hit you with that indecisive “what you tryna do?” line…. They’ll say it in a way that’s suggestive and shyly open to interpretation…. “Please don’t throw out any innuendo sir, because I can assure you I’d rather fuck a more interesting man.”

AND they automatically assume you want to have sex with them as much as they want to have sex with you…. “You want to fuck the shit out of me because I’ve given you a reason; your mundane ass haven’t given me any reason to even like you. I guess I’m supposed to like you, because you like me????”

HIM: “sooo… you really not turned on at all?!”…. 

ME: “I mean…. I’m good.”

THE HONEST ANSWER: “Am I turned on at the fact there is hard dick across the table that desires me…. Yeah, that’s kind of cute…. But I wouldn’t say I’m turned on by you, as a man. I’m not fighting back the urge to smuggle your balls inside my fucking cheeks if that’s what you’re asking.”

I’m bout to start just flat out telling niggas they boring aa fuck…. From here on out you muthafuckas are NOT SAFE! You’ve been warned 😠

What Random Men Think

Idk why so many women are concerned with what men say on the internet….

If the men in your life don’t say negative things about you as a woman than you’re good. If I listen to men on the internet I’d be depressed because no man would speak to a woman who’s not willing to have sex; men would call me whores because I have male friends; and men would call me a golddigger because I prefer to be around men who are breadwinners.

Trust me men still speak to me, they never call me a whore, and most of the men around me agree they should be breadwinners. It’s all about the type of men you attract into your life. There may be a lot of men who think negatively about me, but they’re not in my life. I will not alter a damn thing about how I conduct myself as a woman because majority of men (I don’t fucking know) have negative opinions about what I do…. The only men I answer to are the ones I respect and who respect me.

If the men around me are the type of men I actually like; I’M NOT CHANGING A DAMN THING. I must be doing something right!!!! 

If the men around you do not fit within what you consider to be an ideal man then you should probably change something. If I was surround by men who pussured me for ass, called me a slut for having male friends, or felt like they weren’t going to assume majority of the authority on half of my damn dollar; I WOULD DEFINITELY CHANGE SOMETHING.

I like men who like having authority and there are things he must so as a man if he wants me to submit. It’s as simple as that.

​HARD LUST FOR A FAKE ASS NUN

I’ve unknowingly became sexy on some weird shit. I guess because I don’t have skin showing, I had to make up for my lack of sexiness in my appearances, with sexiness in other things I do…. There’s a dude at the job that all the ladies like. I wasnt paying this mf no mind. He’s an older man at least in his 40’s and of course he smooth af. Not sure when I caught his eye but this mf started blushing on the low because I touched his water bottle…. I looked at him like “wtf is wrong with you?”. I didn’t know men his age could even blush. He started laughing and shit, and all the other women started to get curious asking what was going on?…. Hell if I know; this nigga weird…. Once all the women settled down and gave up on discovering why he was having some much without them. He looked at me and politely asked for his water bottle back. He said it with a seductive wink 😉 like it had my juices on it or something.

“Ooohhhhhhh you like that????” (Mmmmm)

One day I showed him (without true intentions) what I could do with a bottle of hand sanitizer that accidently (serious accident) opened while I was fiddling with it and slightly squirted out…. He bout lost his fucking mind!!…. “Over hand sanitizer?!?!?!” 😕…. Let me put this shit down before this handsome mf get us both fired. Smh I promise I don’t be doing shit to entice anybody into doing anything (for real)…. Men be staring at you like they ready to toss yo ass up for no reason…. Sir I’m just over here being brown skin on a Thursday, relax.

I remember the time before last, when dude (mid to late 20’s) was staring at me so hard the white boy got nervous for me. The white boy asked the other dude “what’s going on?!” as he looked back and forth between the other dude and I…. I looked at the white boy as the other dude blatantly ignored the fuck out of him. The white boy continued to ask the other dude why he was staring at me. White boy started to focus on me because he wasn’t getting a response from the dude. I just turned around like neither one of them was there. That nigga was clearly having a moment of hard lust that came out of thin air….In a completely seperate event the other dude who was staring at me told me “sometimes when I’m staring at you I realize it, and I ask myself why the fuck am I staring at her?” (as he laughed)…. Uhhhh, because you’re turned on by my ability to blink my fucking eyelids that’s why….. I didn’t say anything tho, he had a girlfriend and I wasn’t bout to open up that can of worms.

When I first started to alter myself as a woman, I started covering myself up more and not showing my hair. I thought no man would ever talk to me because I wasn’t sexy looking and all the other girls would look better than me (because they were showing skin). Normally the only skin men can see are my hands and my face… That was a long time ago and they were silly thoughts that I quickly pushed out of my head, because I promptly decided idgaf if men didn’t think I was attractive anymore…. I’m still going to do me.

But I haven’t missed a beat….. I’m telling you If a man thinks you’re sexy, YOU’RE SEXY. Other women showing skin may get his attention, but he’s for damn sure still willing to show you some love, especially in the event you can keep him in that blissful state of pure lust…. He’ll actually start giving you more attention than the other women. Sometimes they’ll completely forget about the other women (maybe not completely, but close enough).

Men will have dreams about you too…. Stop trying so damn hard…. I put less than a quarter of the amount of effort other women put in and men still fuck with me regardless.

Just is what it is…. They can’t help it.

Love Letters: Wack Ass Father

Had a conversation with a 40yr old man about his 20yr old son. I like to think these conversations are random, but I’m not sure if he strategically chose me for a reason. I ask him if he was kool, on some “I’m bout to leave do you need anything before I go” type shit. I never took the car out of drive. I was hoping he’d say “I’m good” and head back into his place of employment. Instead he took advantage of the opportunity to discuss some issues his son has with him.

Confession: I am not a man, and not only am I not a man, I have no children. Especially not a grown ass man for a son. Am I qualified to discuss father son relationships, maybe not but I know maturity when I see it….

His son told him that he never taught him how to be a man.

The father was upset because he felt like his son was trying to “disrespect” him, and he had no idea why his son felt so distasteful towards him….. I thought it was pretty obvious that if your son (which is a good kid) said you failed him then you did. You can’t tell that man he’s wrong for feeling a certain way. I never told him I agree with his son, but I did my best to try to make him understand that there is a possibility that he could be a shitty father. I’m not saying he is, but there is a possibility.

On some real shit this is why so many females complain about men’s parenting skills. Paying child support and being around is NOT ENOUGH. It may seem like all women are money hungry hoes who are never satisfied with anything a man does, but truth be told majority of women are not. Those child support checks are not enough. You just being there to look at is not enough. The minimum is not enough…. I know a lot of men who have daddy issues that have nothing to do with their mother’s ill attitude towards their father.

Men love to accuse women of turning their children against them, but most of the time y’all fail your children on your own. Your children will eventually grow up and become capable of making observations. Don’t be so fucking surprised if they make some not so prestigious ones of you.

This man is far from accepting that his son’s negative views of him are due to his actions as a father. I listened to him blame his son’s mother, his son’s girlfriend, and his son. He had no capacity to acknowledge himself as the issue.

I wanted to tell him to grow up. You’re upset with your son because he told you the truth. He said “my son never said anything before now”. No shit, he was a little boy of course he didn’t have the courage to speak up for himself. Your son told you that he never felt like he really had a father and you got upset and hung up on him. Your son finds the courage to share his feelings with you, and you disrespect him by hanging up in his face?! Real fucking mature sir.

He said his son said it in a real disrespectful ass manner. I’m sure he did, look at who his father is…. You have to be careful of how you react to your children disappointing you. The same way you treat them when you’re disappointed is the same way they’ll treat you when their disappointed with you.

This “I’m the parent, he’s the child” shit has to stop. GOOD PARENTS DON’T DISRESPECT THEIR CHILDREN, PERIOD.

Your excuse: no matter what your parents did you never disrespected them because you’re old skool and you have manners. Maybe you didn’t disrespect your mother when she disrespected you, but you for damn sure adopted that same negative ass behavior from her and raised your children with it.

Your son doesn’t have to put up with your shit anymore…. You trying to force a grown ass man (your son) to respect you regardless of your weak ass actions is fucking ridiculous. Why don’t you try your best to be the father he never had? Reevaluate your relationship and ask him if you two can move forward. Don’t get into a dick measuring contest, because you’re not man enough to be vulnerable with your son and admit your mistakes. There’s no way in hell you can sit here and say that you have absolutely no idea what he’s talking about. Just like I know, your son knows, you’re well aware of your shortcomings and you’re using his condescending tone as an excuse to convince him to not serve it to you straight. You expect your son to take your feeling into consideration and make sure he’s still polite even if he is upset with you, but you’re not considerate enough to resist the urge to hang up on him even if you’re upset with the tone he took with you.

Like father, like son.

Stop complaining about your reflection (children). If you do better so will your son. He’s probably upset because he’s 20 and he knows the world expects him to be a man but he realized he’s lost.

Right now is a great opportunity to be the best father you can be. He doesn’t need his mother anymore, so she’s not going to be in his ear a lot. He has his own mind now but he’s still easily impressed. Your son has no children and all of your children are damn near grown. Start a business together and use your spare time to teach him life lesson’s.

He’s Too Good for You

I’m always woman enough to be honest with myself, and I’ll say that there has only been three men out of my entire life that I didn’t deserve.

Everybody always think they’re good enough for anybody, but I don’t believe that. I know damn well there are men who don’t deserve me, and I know damn well there are men who I don’t deserve…. I’ve met three of these men.

The first one was a great guy who really liked me. He did his best to try to make sure he was always there to help. This dude was absolutely amazing! The only man who help me study for my exams. He did more than just help me study, he was my fucking tutor. I was having trouble, and he came through with the “we got this” attitude and clean my shit up. I got one of the highest scores on the final exam. I have absolutely nothing bad to say about this man. I told him how I felt about his overwhelming generosity, but I don’t think he believed me because I didn’t want to be in a relationship. I remember him asking me what’s wrong with him? NOT A GOD DAMN THING!!! We just wasn’t a good fit, and we still probably aren’t…. I think I didn’t deserve him in my life because I (unintentionally) made him feel bad about himself and didn’t try hard enough to correct it. He was worth that extra effort, but I said “Oh well”. I don’t want to be with him, but he’d be a amazing friend….. I do deserve him as a friend now.

Second guy was someone I was involved with for a quick minute. He wasn’t as great as the first guy, but nonetheless he was a good man that I didn’t know what to do with at the time. Out of all the guys I dated he was the only one who never once made me feel unsafe or uncomfortable around him. Other guys will say things that indirectly threaten you physically or would potentially harm your health. He was the king of making a woman feel comfortable. When I had a cold he tucked me in and brought me ice cream. I asked for ice cream because it’s been clinically proven to cure common colds…. I wouldn’t know what security feels like if it wasn’t for him. He gave me a key to his appointment, but I shortly returned it. I don’t regret not being with him, but I’d like him to know that I appreciate everything he did. He tried to take care of me, but I wasn’t ready and he knew it. Even after he knew I wasn’t ready he still was willing to waste his time on giving it a second shot (that i didn’t ask for) a year later…. I do deserve him as a good friend now, but he won’t be reading this.

Third guy was actually a platonic friend…. As a reoccurring theme I didn’t actually want to be with him either. I never really wanted any of these men (and I still don’t), but that doesn’t stop me from knowing that if I did, I wouldn’t have deserved them back in the day…. This last guy is the only man I currently still feel like I probably don’t deserve. I don’t think I’m developed enough as a woman to adequately take him on….. It was weird because we were good friends for some time and then one day out of nowhere he said on some “FYI” shit “you don’t deserve me”. Of course he’s a good friend so he said it much nicer than that, but I guess he felt like he needed to let me know so I didn’t get any bright ideas….. “Ummm first off muthafucka I don’t want you, (long pause) and besides I already know that. Your punk ass didn’t have to say it out loud”…. Smh, good thing I’m not a sensitive human being. That man tried to squash some invisible dream he made up for me. That’s my boy though and I would’ve did the same shit to him if the shoe was on the other foot. We have zero chill in this bitch.

Good Times….

Gunz & Butta

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Assets = Necessary Liabilities + Equity

Who’s responsible for teaching African American youth the difference between assets and unnecessary liabilities?

Watched the Movie “Baby Boy” not too long ago, and Ving Rhames character (Melvin) tried to explain the difference to them “little dumb muthafuckas” in the bedroom….. Judging by the financial choices I’ve seen African American males (ages 18-40) make over the past few yrs; Melvin’s message fell on deaf ears.

I know many people who’ve made great decisions with their money, but a lot of Black males still seem to have this subtle “make it rain” mentality. I said subtle because the average hood nigga can’t really afford to legitimately make it rain (if there’s such a thing).

Why do so many Black males make financially negligent decision?

I personally think it’s because they have self-esteem issues. The same reason a broke bitch will buy a $100 pack of weave before she saves $5 for her child’s tuition, is the same reason a basic nigga will buy 3 sets of rims before he owns a house.

They’re not interested in Guns….

And butter…. Well, butter makes them cum.

There’s something about expensive shit rapidly depreciating that makes bitches wet, and these niggas sign up for the benefits….. Sad thing about it is, most of these dudes know better, but the thirst for new pussy and the temporary high of shit’n on niggas taste too good.

So how do we convince a dumb nigga to stop consciously doing stupid shit?

We don’t….. Ignorance is comprised of the same substance as pride, dignity, and honor. Nobody can take your dignity away from you unless you let them. Unfortunately the same goes for ignorance.

A year from now, if you’ll certainly incur a substantial loss on something you purchased today; then it’s more than likely a bad investment. Especially if the object didn’t increase your productivity in the fist place…..

Melvin:

When you make paper, there are rules that go with it. You got to learn the difference between guns and butter. There are two types of niggas, niggas with guns… …and niggas with butter. What are the guns? That’s the real estate… …the stocks and bonds. Art work. Shit that appreciates with value. What’s the butter? Cars, clothes, jewelry, all the bullshit that don’t mean shit after you buy it. That’s what it’s all about: Guns and butter.